Just as adults experience feelings of anger and aggression,  children also demonstrate these normal impulses.  A child, however, may lack the self-control necessary to express his anger in a peaceful manner.  Children require guidance in developing good judgment and self-discipline.

Children may experience occasional outbursts during temper tantrums, but frequent periods of rage involving attacks on others or himself are not normal.   The child who has difficulty with aggression may begin as a fussy infant who is violent toward other children, adults, or animals during the preschool years.  These children rarely feel remorse for their actions.

Aggressive behavior is best prevented with good discipline and full-time supervision.  All caretakers should agree on the manner of discipline, and the child should be reprimanded immediately following his action as well as each time the behavior occurs.

Minor disagreements between children should be ignored.  However, an adult must take charge when a physical fight continues despite a verbal warning or when one child is uncontrollably assaulting another.

One of the best ways to teach a child nonviolent methods of dealing with his anger is to model such behavior yourself.  Also, praise the child when he settles an argument in a peaceful manner.

There are instances when your child’s pediatrician should become involved.  These include: 

            --when physical injury to himself or others occurs

            --when he attacks you or other adults

            --when his is sent home from school or neighbors’ homes

            --when you fear for the safety of yourself or others

Your pediatrician or mental health provider can suggest appropriate discipline, behavior management, counseling, or medication to help your child become a productive member of society.